If You Suck At Relationships, Let Me Tell You That You Aren’t Alone
‘Relationship’ the word in itself sounds like a missile, BUT is it really the relationship that scares you or committing yourself to the relationship? Well, being with someone does come with its pros and cons but, for us phobics, it usually comes with more cons than pros.
Now, to be honest, I am one of those who absolutely suck at relationships, but it’s not the love aspect of it that we usually suck at. I and I’m sure you as well love the idea of love and love being in love (I know this is too much love). However, it’s a bit of drama that comes along and that’s what we aren’t really up to.
I mean, I don’t want to inform anyone every time I step out of my house or step in the house. It’s not that I don’t care, but I just don’t feel the need and this shouldn’t really make me irresponsible, isn’t it? Also, I don’t want to be told what to wear, how to eat, how to behave in public, should I laugh or just smile and on and on and on…
Maybe I and you have been in relationship with some jerks, but it’s also possible that we do not want to embody the stereotypical idea of one.
What if I want to be independent and not have to report to someone and what if I do have to report to my partner, he should also be doing the same? Why is it that the girl has to be reporting things and the guy gets to get away with it and justify it saying that he needs space?
Or maybe I suck at relationships because I prioritize work and my career over spending time discussing how he should go on a high protein diet. I don’t really mean to imply that all the other girls who are in a relationship are giving up on their dreams or aren’t being independent, what I mean here is, maybe they can multitask and I can’t so what’s the big deal? Also, wanting casual sex and not wanting to have a relationship shouldn’t really make me a slut because isn’t that my choice?
Nevertheless, I think it’s absolutely alright to not want a relationship, because firstly you can’t force it and secondly if you force it, you will obviously end up making a mess. And remember, when a relationship has to happen, it will without you having to push yourself for the same.